Is Your Dog’s Play Too Rough?

2 snarls smallAs some of you might know, in each issue of Modern Dog Magazine I write either an article or an answer to a behavioral question a reader has sent in. The most recent query came from a woman who was concerned that her dog became over-excited and played too roughly with other dogs at the park. She wanted to know how she could get him to play more nicely. After responding that I’m not a fan of dog parks but that I did respect her concern for other people and their dogs, I wrote what follows. I’m reprinting it in my blog because I thought it might be of interest to some of you. I’d also suggest checking out the magazine, as it’s excellent! By the way, please note that play between dog friends and those who live together may be rougher without being problematic, as they understand each other’s signals and body language well and know how far they can go. This article deals with watching your dog play with unfamiliar or casual acquaintance dogs.

Dogs have different play styles depending on their breed, age, and other factors, but still, they generally understand each other’s body language. The first step in getting your dog to play nicely with others is for you to become very familiar with canine body language so that you can notice when tensions are first starting to build. When I was filming at my local dog park for my DVD Dissecting the Dynamics of Dog-Dog Play, I was able, by editing hundreds of hours of footage of dogs interacting, to break things down into body language and signals that play was becoming too rough or overwhelming. Allow me to share some of these elements.

When dogs are romping happily together, their bodies are like limp noodles. Tails may wag in loose arcs, and mouths may hang open. When a dog becomes tense, his body stiffens. In play, although the tail is wagging, it may be held high and be moving stiffly from side to side (this can indicate confidence or dominance), be lowered and moving quickly back and forth within a small radius (possible nervousness or anxiety), or even be tucked between the dog’s legs (usually fear). When a dog’s body goes stiff and that “happy mouth” closes—he may be staring at another dog or taking offense to something a dog is doing as this happens—this is called a “freeze.” Momentary though it maybe, this important mini-pause gives a dog time to assess the situation before him. Does he need to run away? Should he fight? Or is everything okay, and everyone can go back to what they were doing? Depending on the potential threat, the dog will make his decision. Watch for freezes in your dog and others, along with the other body language mentioned. There is much, much more to watch for, but these will get you started.

As far as the play itself, one thing to be wary of is speed and intensity. It is a lot easier for play to boil over into aggression when things are becoming fast and furious. Are the dogs racing around the park? There’s nothing inherently wrong with that, but monitor them to ensure that all the adrenaline-fueled excitement doesn’t turn into aggression. The more dogs that are involved, the more potential danger. Also, the more vertical the play gets, especially where dogs are standing on their hind legs and mouth wrestling, the more potential for danger. And, watch for actions dogs may take offense to. A few to watch for are humping, hip bumping or slamming, and placing a head over another dog’s neck or shoulder area.

If you notice that your dog is becoming overexcited or playing too roughly, or that other owners are becoming concerned, create an enforced break in the action by calling your dog to you. If he does not have a solid recall to the point that he will come to you even when playing with another dog, that’s okay; this is a very high-distraction scenario! Practice at home first, then work outdoors, gradually adding distractions as your dog is successful. Don’t forget to reward him every time! You can also practice recalls when the dog park is empty so that your dog will become accustomed to coming when called there (just don’t use food if other dogs are in the park). If you do create an enforced play break, it needn’t be long, just long enough for your dog and others to calm down. If things have escalated to the point where it looks as though there may be an actual fight, call your dog to you or, if he doesn’t yet have a solid recall, calmly walk over and take hold of him. Then leash him and leave the park. Careful monitoring and listening to your instincts will go a long way in allowing everyone to have fun while staying safe.
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4 Responses to Is Your Dog’s Play Too Rough?

  1. Gerry Ingram says:

    The lack of common knowledge on this subject is why I do not like dog parks. When I owned my own daycare and training facility, I was always there. There are a lot of factors involved in determining the answer to the question, as Nicole has pointed out. It takes years to develop a good sense of canine body language. And, each dog has its own personality just like we do.

    Dogs just like little boys can play pretty rough without anyone really getting hurt. But, just like with little boys, play can switch to a fight in a nano-second. So, I always keep the play within reason. Most importantly, always watch for one of the dogs trying to break away from the play; that is the first sign of potential trouble. Someone has had enough and needs a break.

    Something that some do not also consider is, how is the play effecting the other dogs in the play area. Some dogs may not be comfortable with two dogs who really get rambunctious.

  2. ibindarte says:

    So I have 4 dogs; mom and 3 of her pups. They are part Giant Schnauzers and they play rough with each other. When we go to the park, I try to keep them away from other dogs as they believe/act like all dogs play like them. I can give them all the cues in the world but they are hyper and friendly but very overwhelming to nearly all dogs and most people. (They tend to swarm people/dogs to say hi/check them out imagine 4 large black dogs jumping and running towards you) My challenge is when the owners of the other dog tries to insist on playing with mine. I understand the desire to socialize but ugh no. Trying to explain to owners that my dogs are good they just play rough and will eventually cause issues is frustrating. I think I’m know around the dog areas as the snobby dog owner.
    I also realize this is a matter of me training them more to manage their swarming behavior. Until then, I teach them indifference to other dogs and avoidance.

    • wildewmn says:

      It sounds as though you know your dogs and their behavior very well! Also that they might not be great candidates for the dog park. Even if you can control them, you can’t control other people’s dogs. I’d advise allowing them to play with each other and maybe setting up selective play dates instead of frequenting dog parks. Too iffy!

    • Jenny H says:

      I know the feeling. I have a wonderful big friendly dog — but his ‘play style’ looks more like fighting — and many dogs also interpret his behaviour as fighting. So it is ‘Yes, he’s friendly. NO he cannot play!” 😦
      So much easier tweith a dog when you can say, “No she doesn’t want play with other dogs/ No she doesn’t like other dogs near her.”

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